Raise your virtual hand if you've ever felt at a loss about how to get your kids to get along with each other. Sibling rivalry is real, and it can be tough to navigate.

As a mom of multiple kids myself, I know firsthand that the bond between siblings can be both beautiful and bumpy. One minute they're best friends, the next they're arguing over the cinnamon toast crunch (yes, we have had fights over cereal).

But don't worry - I've got some tried-and-true tips to help your kids get along better and build bonds to last a lifetime.

Let Them Work It Out (Most of the Time):

I know it's tempting to swoop in and play referee every time your kids start arguing. But here's a little secret: sometimes, it's better to take a step back. When we let our kids work out their own problems (within reason, of course), we're actually teaching them valuable life skills like negotiation, compromise, and problem-solving. Siblings can be the best teachers!

One thing we noticed was that often when our kids argued in front of us it was to get our attention.  My husband and I would simply walk out of the room and take our attention somewhere else.  Without parents as an audience the fighting would quickly stop.

Next time you hear a disagreement brewing, wait as long as you can before stepping in. You might be surprised at how often they figure things out on their own. And when they do? Make sure to let them know you love them!

Set Clear Boundaries for how You Treat Each Other:

While it's great to let kids work things out, it's also important to have some ground rules. In our house, we have a few non-negotiables when it comes to how siblings treat each other. Things like:

• No punching
• No name-calling or mean words
• Respect each other's personal space, belongings, and food

Your rules may be different but make sure they are clear and consistent. When everyone knows what's expected, it's easier to create a peaceful home environment.

And under no circumstance should you talk negatively about one of your kids to his sibling.

Support Each Other's Activities: One for All, All for One!

Here's a fun way to build family unity: make it a priority to support each other's activities. In our family, we say, "When you get one, you get us all!" This means if one kid has a game, or a special event the whole family shows up to cheer them on.

This not only makes the spotlight kid feel good, but it also teaches the other siblings the importance of showing up for family. Plus, it's just more fun!

Family Dinner: More Than Just a Meal:

A recent Harvard study showed that 80% of teenagers claim that family dinner is where they were most likely to have a quality conversation with their parents.

Never underestimate the power of gathering around the dinner table! Family dinners are about so much more than just food. They're a chance to connect, share stories, and build stronger relationships.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a gourmet meal or mac and cheese, try to make family dinner a regular occurrence. Turn off the TV, put away the phones, and really talk to each other.

Cheer Each Other On: Cultivating Genuine Happiness for Others:

This one's huge! Teaching our kids to be genuinely happy for each other's successes is a skill that'll serve them well throughout life (and after you are gone). It's not always easy (especially when one sibling seems to be in the spotlight more often), but it's so worth it.

Siblings: Your Longest-Lasting Relationships:

Here's something I love to remind my kids: "Your siblings will be in your life longer than almost anyone else." Friends will come and go, but siblings? They're there for the long haul.

Encourage your kids to think of their siblings as built-in best friends. Sure, they might not always get along perfectly, but remind them of what they have in common. Encourage them to confide in each other, support each other, and create shared memories.  Those little inside jokes can go a long way to connecting families. 

Unite Around a Common Cause:

Want to see your kids work together like never before? Give them a common goal or cause to rally around. 

Maybe you decide to do a service project, or volunteer to feed the homeless as a family. Or keep it simple with a family goal, like saving up for a fun vacation. When kids work together towards something bigger than themselves, it can really strengthen their bond.

Summing it up:

Remember, moms, building strong sibling relationships is a journey, not a destination. They may not get along at all in middle school and become best friends in high school.  Be patient, consistent, and show lots of love.

Don't get discouraged if things aren't perfect right away. Every positive interaction, every problem solved together, every shared laugh – it all adds up. You're laying the foundation for relationships that will support your kids long after they've left the nest.

And hey, on those days when it feels like World War III has broken out in your living room? Take a deep breath. Remember that this too shall pass, and that you're doing your best.

So here's to family dinners full of laughter, to siblings cheering each other on, and to the beautiful chaos that is family life. You've got this, and your kids are lucky to have you guiding the way!